Quotes: Psychology
This collection treats psychology as the study of how we shape meaning, judgment and connection. Maslow warns that limited mental tools distort problems, Adler shows that meanings make the self, and Sartre exposes the strain of being with others.
Running through the selections is a tension between judgment and understanding: Epictetus points to the power of our judgments, while Spinoza and Rogers advocate for patient, empathic attention. The page encourages a practical question: when does knowing others require critique, and when does it require listening that heals?
7 quotes on this theme, each with its source and insight
The quotes
“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.”
Source: The Psychology of Science: A Reconnaissance, 1966 · Check the source
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- The sentence appears in Maslow’s 1966 book The Psychology of Science: A Reconnaissance; the familiar short form is a later paraphrase of his wording.
Maslow warns that familiar tools shape how we perceive problems: rely on one method and every situation starts to look like a use for that method. He wrote this in a 1966 critique of method‑centered science to urge flexibility and humility in problem‑solving.
“I have striven not to laugh at human actions, not to weep at them, nor to hate them, but to understand them.”
Source: Tractatus politicus, Introduction (1677) · Check the source
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- The Latin formula appears in the Introduction to Spinoza’s Tractatus politicus and is presented there as his method of study.
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- Attribution to Spinoza is secure, but the line is often loosely translated and sometimes misassigned to other works.
Spinoza states a research method: suspend mockery, lament and hatred, and seek causal explanation for human acts. Phrased in the Introduction to the Tractatus politicus, it reflects his rationalist, deterministic approach to the passions.
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. They will practice Indian yoga and all its exercises, observe a strict regimen of diet, learn the literature of the whole world—all because they cannot get on with themselves and have not the slightest faith that anything useful could ever come out of their own souls.”
Source: Psychology and Alchemy, Collected Works vol. 12, para. 126 (1944/1953) · Check the source
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- The sentence is published in Psychology and Alchemy (Collected Works, vol. XII), paragraph 126, and is traceable in standard editions of Jung’s writings.
Jung criticizes using external practices as a shield: disciplines, diets and exotic techniques can mask a refusal to explore one’s own psyche. The line appears in Psychology and Alchemy and underlines that inner work, not technique, produces genuine change.
“When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance… provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another.”
Source: A Way of Being, pp. 160–161 (1980) · Check the source
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- The passage appears in Rogers’s essay “Empathic: An Unappreciated Way of Being,” published in A Way of Being; located around pp. 160–161.
Rogers argues that deep understanding itself can be healing: when someone is frightened, confused or doubting their worth, what helps most is another person’s accurate, nonjudgmental presence. The passage comes from his late essay on empathy and frames listening as an active, restorative stance rather than mere sympathy.
“Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.”
Source: What Life Should Mean to You, p. 14 · Check the source
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- The wording is traceable to Adler's What Life Should Mean to You, notably the sentence found on page 14 of English editions.
Adler argues that events don't fix our identity—our interpretations do. By assigning meaning to situations we shape motives and choices. This line appears in What Life Should Mean to You and captures his move from determinism to human agency.
“Hell is other people.”
Source: No Exit, final exchange (1944) · Check the source
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- The sentence appears in Sartre’s play No Exit and is spoken by the character Garcin in the play’s concluding lines.
Sartre’s line reframes hell as a human condition: being trapped under other people’s judgments so that you become an object for their gaze. It closes the play No Exit, where three dead characters are forced into mutual scrutiny. The point targets dependence on others’ evaluations, not company itself.
“It is not things that trouble us, but our judgments about things.”
Source: Enchiridion, 5 (c. early 2nd century AD) · Check the source
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- The statement appears in Enchiridion 5, a handbook compiling Epictetus' teachings as recorded by his student Arrian.
Epictetus teaches that disturbance arises from how we appraise events, not from events themselves. This practical claim — central to the Enchiridion — hands you back control: change your judgments and you change your experience.