Quotes: Imperfection
Imperfection is presented not as a stigma but as the human condition that enables learning and mutual kindness. The selections gathered make clear that mistakes are universal — you do not fail alone — and that falling short can be the raw material of growth rather than a final verdict. Voices such as Robert Browning, Samuel Beckett and Nelson Mandela prompt us to see error as part of living, not as an endpoint.
What ties these authors together is the question of how to respond to failure. Some urge relentless trying, others advocate reframing loss into lesson, and some insist on the importance of loving despite flaws. This page examines how accepting imperfection reshapes courage, relationships, and recovery.
5 quotes on this theme, each with its source and insight
The quotes
“Fail I alone, in words and deeds? / Why, all men strive and who succeeds?”
Source: The Last Ride Together, 1855 · Check the source
Verified attributionWhat we know
- What is documented
- The line is a direct verse from Robert Browning’s poem The Last Ride Together (1855).
Browning turns a lover’s private failure into a wider truth: everyone strives, yet success is never guaranteed. In the dramatic lyric “The Last Ride Together” (1855) the speaker’s questions widen a personal loss into a shared human condition, finding consolation in the dignity of trying.
“If you don’t find a way to love a flawed person, secretly you’re teaching yourself that you are not lovable because of your flaws.”
Source: no specific work is documented · Check the source
Disputed attributionWhat we know
- What is documented
- The sentence is widely attributed to T. D. Jakes across quote compilations, but no searchable primary book, sermon transcript, or publisher text has been found for this exact wording.
- What remains uncertain
- The attribution is disputed/weakly sourced; the wording may be a paraphrase or variant circulating online rather than a verified line from a specific published or transcribed work.
The line says refusing to love someone’s imperfections teaches you, in secret, that your own flaws make you unlovable. It ties into modern themes of grace and healing and fits T. D. Jakes’s known emphasis on worth beyond perfection. The wording mainly appears in online quote collections and is not firmly sourced to a primary text.
“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”
Source: Worstward Ho (1983) · Check the source
Verified attributionWhat we know
- What is documented
- The line appears in Samuel Beckett's late prose piece Worstward Ho, published in 1983.
Beckett’s line condenses a late-career aesthetic: persistence within limits. In Worstward Ho (1983) the phrase operates as an artistic rule — failure is not a mistake to erase but the material out of which work continues.
“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”
Source: McCall's interview, 1980 · Check the source
Disputed attributionWhat we know
- What is documented
- A 1980 McCall's interview quotes Moore saying lines like “Pain nourishes my courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave,” and later collections expand the wording.
- What remains uncertain
- Evidence supports the quote’s substance from the interview, but the exact phrasing widely circulated comes mainly from secondary compilations rather than a verifiable primary transcript.
The line frames growth as something earned by taking risks and learning from mistakes: courage deepens through hardship rather than comfort. It reflects Mary Tyler Moore’s public message about resilience and is traced to a 1980 McCall's interview, though exact wording is partly disputed.
“I never lose. Either I win or I learn.”
Source: no specific work is documented · Check the source
Disputed attributionWhat we know
- What is documented
- Contemporary fact‑checks find no reliable occurrence of this phrase in Mandela’s recorded speeches or writings.
- What remains uncertain
- Although widely credited to Mandela, the quote’s provenance is unverified; it should be treated as disputed or likely apocryphal.
The line captures a resilient outlook: when plans fail, you treat the setback as fuel for growth. It’s widely ascribed to Nelson Mandela but lacks a verifiable primary source—yet it remains popular as a leadership and perseverance motto.