Quotes: Longing
Longing names the inner movements that pull people beyond routine toward meaning, intimacy, or wholeness. In these pieces the impulse is spiritual for Al‑Ghazali, relational and risky for Ernest Hemingway, and a pathway to renewed selfhood for Clarissa Pinkola Estés. Each author treats longing as a force that can heal or harm.
Together the quotations probe the tension between surrender and preservation: the relief promised by turning toward something greater, the danger of losing oneself in loving another, and the possibility that scars and yearning are doors to a fuller life. They ask what must be given up and what must be guarded.
3 quotes on this theme, each with its source and insight
The quotes
“In God, there is no sorrow or suffering or affliction. If you want to be free of all affliction and suffering, hold fast to God, and turn wholly to Him, and to no one else. Indeed, all your suffering comes from this: that you do not turn toward God.”
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Source not foundWhat we know
- What is documented
- The saying appears repeatedly on modern quotation sites under al‑Ghazali’s name, but researchers found no traceable Arabic original, edition, or chapter that contains this wording.
- What remains uncertain
- Authorship is uncertain and leans toward disputed: the English wording looks like a modern paraphrase of Sufi themes rather than a verifiable verbatim quote from al‑Ghazali.
The line frames suffering as a spiritual symptom: pain deepens when the heart depends on the transient rather than God. It is widely attributed to al‑Ghazali and matches Sufi themes, but no Arabic source, manuscript, or precise citation has been located to verify it.
“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
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MisattributedWhat we know
- What is documented
- Sources show the line is commonly claimed to be from Men Without Women but it does not appear there; no verified primary source has been documented.
- What remains uncertain
- Scholars and reference sites mark the quote as apocryphal or misattributed; it may trace to a 2011 blog post rather than Hemingway.
The line warns that loving someone too much can erase your sense of self and stresses the need to keep your own worth. It is widely attributed to Ernest Hemingway online, but that attribution is disputed and no primary-source match in his works has been found.
“The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.”
Source: Women Who Run With the Wolves · Check the source
Verified attributionWhat we know
- What is documented
- The phrasing is consistently attributed to Clarissa Pinkola Estés and is cited in connection with Women Who Run With the Wolves in reputable quote collections.
- What remains uncertain
- Attribution is well established across sources, though the strongest confirmation would be a direct page citation from the book; the examined indexes reproduce the passage without a primary-page image.
Estés frames certain pains and longings as threshold experiences that grant access to the deeper, instinctive Self. The passage, associated with Women Who Run With the Wolves, suggests that scars, old stories, and intense longing can become openings to a more embodied, sane life.